Don't Try!

AI tells me the word "try" primarily means to make an effort or attempt to do something.

A few years ago, as a New Year's Resolution, I decided to remove from my everyday conversations the word "try." When it came right down to it, It seemed to be a rather weak and meaningless word. It didn't have much strength or impact. It lets people off the hook. I think we all know deep inside when we tell someone that we'll "try", but not make a firm commitment, it may never happen.

A good example is when someone says "I'll try to call you tomorrow," and when tomorrow comes, there's no phone call. It feels like the relationship doesn't mean much to them. Or, for example, I used to say, "let's try to get together soon." Instead, now I say, "let's choose a date right now and put it on our calendars". Being specific is so much more positive and concrete. It's respectful of others' and your own time. And it works. 

As I've grown older, I realise how short life can be and how quickly things can change. I may not have the chance to try later, because things change. Often my friends and relatives moved away or passed away before my effort to "try" really happened. It was a sad lesson that I was taught many times, and failed to learn. But I've worked on it and have finally put into practice not to put things off because "someday" may never come and trying is not an option.

So, I won't suggest that you try this. I suggest you do it. It's actually mentally and emotionally freeing. When a date is set on your calendar, it doesn't constantly pop into your thoughts urging you to try to remember it, and it doesn't weigh heavily on your emotions, making you feel like a bit of a failure when you haven't carried through on your commitment. 

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It is my sincere wish that you and those you love are happy and healthy. And until we meet again, may the Lord hold you in the hollow of His hand.

Emmy